Simply…. Sinfully… Just surviving….

Rihanna did an interview on 20/20 this week about the abuse she suffered while being with Chris Brown. During this whole incident I have found a lot of things interesting that haven’t been addressed by the media. First, police have stated that there have been two incidents of abuse during the course of their relationship. In the first incident, they stated that Rihanna slapped him and he busted out a car window. The second was the most notarious event that has been in the news. What I found shocking was that the media used the first event as evidence that HE was abusive when it clearly stated that She hit him and he hit an object. How was he abusive if he didn’t hit her, but she hit him?

The other thing that came out was that she hit her brother with a bottle in the head. This shows that Rihanna isn’t afraid to be abusive. I assumed that she would come out and say that yes he abused her , but that she was the aggessor as well at times. I expected them to share equal blame of the events that took place. This sadly didn’t happen. I think that as long she refuses to accept responsibility for her actions as well, she will not be able to grow.

In the last few months we have seen her out at clubs dancing on women and men in very suggestive mannerisms. She has been linked to dating a few men as well. This signals that she hasn’t really took the time to reflect on her life. Women all too often are quick to blame the abuser without looking at how they contributed to the situation. Now am I saying that she is at fault in this incident? No I am not. No man has the right to ever hit a woman. At the same time, however, no woman has the right to hit a man. I have seen this scenario play out all the time. A women finds out her man is being unfaithful. In a fit of rage they attack their boyfriend. Then as soon as their boyfriend fights back, they call the police. The police reports say that he asked her to exit the vehicle. The police report also states that she took the keys out of the ignition and threw them. To me, this doesn’t sound like a women who was scared for her life. It sounds like a woman who was mad and hurt.

I believe that in this day and age where women are screaming for equal rights, we should also be held to the same level of expectations that a man is. It is unacceptable for a man to hit a woman. It is also unacceptable for a woman to hit a man. As long as the media and the law continously shows preference to victims of domestic violence due soley on sex, things will only get worse. Women will continously hit men without fear of retalitation. Women will continue to be victims of domestic violence.

It is not until we as ladys realize that violence is not okay no matter what sex you are, that we will see a decline in violence rates.