Simply…. Sinfully… Just surviving….

I saw a thread on another site asking why are there so many fatherless children? Why that question is very important what I found intriguing were the responses.  Some ladies were saying that it is because women decide whether or not the child is conceived, aborted, or put up for adoption. They reasoned that since the man didn’t want the child, he should have an option to not pay child support. I was speechless over this response. These were women on a site dedicated to mothers that felt this way. It didn’t matter that a child is the result of having sex. It didn’t matter that these men knew BEFORE intercourse, that if the woman became pregnant, they would not have a choice in whether the mother wanted to have the child remain in her life. The worst was that it didn’t matter if this child grew up without a father because the father didn’t want her.

It has me questioning what has happened to our country when it is okay to walk away from a child because it is inconvenient. I feel that in a relationship each adult is responsible for his/her actions. The mother should have planned better. She should have made sure that the man she was intimate with had goals and morals that were aligned with hers. The father should have actively made a plan for ensuring that he was taking all the precautions necessary to not impregnate his partner. There is enough blame to go around. Not matter how much blame is laid, however, at the end of the day there is still a child who deserve to be loved. This child didn’t ask to be here. But for the the failure to plan by “mom” and “dad” the child would not be here.

I think it is time for fathers to stand up and take responsibilty for their part. I think it is not longer acceptable to not take care of your kids. Ladies, if your man is a deadbeat father, leave him. If he stopped taking care of his exes child, he will stop taking care your child when it become inconvient to them.